The Capricorn new moon got ahold of me early Thursday morning. Like 1 am early. Capricorn is the star sign of outsized ambition and this, my friends, is why we have this blog post. New moons are powerful for planting seeds of intention and puts progress and productivity high on our agendas. It nudges us to conserve natural resources and adopt environmentally-friendly processes.
I'm going to be honest, I'm not well versed in universal intelligence. I had no idea that there was even a new moon at the same time I was surged with energy to set my intentions for the year ahead.
Moving into 2017 and my 25th year of life involuntarily wrapped into one, this quote from Uninvited sums up my intention behind my New Years Resolutions:
I've seen a lot of negativity on social media about leaving 2016 behind as though it never happened. Well, I had a few breakthroughs...
I had the unintentional opportunity for a lighter course load in chiropractic school (ha — okay, only 21 credit hours compared to 27+). I was able to take that free time and invest in my calling by shadowing Dr. Courtney Gowin of Free to Be Chiropractic every Saturday — an opportunity I wouldn't have had time for if life stuck to my plan instead of God's plan. I had some of the most inspiring and influential people share their gifts and talents with me to bring Pure + Radiant to life. I served one of my best friends as her doula during birth (read her empowering birth story here) and I made some of the most radical decisions I've ever made. Ones where I almost didn't recognize myself and yet never felt more congruent. I let go of organizations, groups, and friendships that were no longer serving me. I surrounded myself with a tribe of people who uplift, encourage, and support me daily.
For 2017, I'm setting some serious soul goals:
1. I'm turning off all social media notifications
I've tried deleting the apps cold turkey in the past but I always end up re-downloading them and find myself scrolling without purpose, again. I have this weird thing where I like to have all notifications cleared before setting my alarm and hitting sleep mode at night, but we all know that's a never ending battle.
Will this mean I won't be accessible? No way, José! It means that when I do respond to your comments and messages, I will be able to respond with thoughtfulness because it will be during my new designated social media hours. As compared to a quick response in the middle of cramming for an exam or on a dinner date with my husband (guilty).
2017 is all about bringing work / student / wife balance into our home. I'm content with the 3+ hour response time I've earned on Pure + Radiant Facebook messages. It does not make me a better business owner, chiropractic student, or wife to be at social media's beck and call. I am always willing to support and serve, but I tend to put those notifications before my studies, obligations, and even my husband. So, no more notifications, no more distractions, and when it's go-time, I can give social media the attention it deserves.
2. Phone jail is serious
The Kahlas are taking 'phone jail' more seriously in 2017. My friend, Courtney Gowin, shared this practice with me about a year ago and we welcomed it with arms folded across our chests. This year, we are welcoming it with open arms and our hearts are ready to focus on being present while at home and with each other.
'Phone jail' is having a designated location in your home (preferably by the door you use to enter and exit) to store you phone away. It's not that calls and texts from loved ones are bad, but sometimes those tempting notifications steal you away from those you're with.
I bet you're all freaking out because how are you going to live without my Instagram stories of our Great Dane, Dixie May — I know, right!? But have no fear, there will be freedom to grab my phone and snap a quick video but then that's it. Phone goes back to 'phone jail' and I go back to snuggling with my dog. We are striving towards phasing out the thoughtlessness of social media. The meaningless scrolling and scrolling and scrolling.
Also, we will no longer keep our phones in our bedroom while we sleep. We invested in a bamboo charging dock to keep in the living room so we won't be tempted to check social media "just real quick" (2 hours later...) before bed or our email first thing in the morning. Our mornings can have purpose in preparing us for making the most out of our day and owning an attitude of gratitude. I desire to be a more joyous human and serve my community at a greater capacity.
3. I'm kissing TV goodbye
I have failed at every TV rule I've ever created for myself so that's it — we're physically removing all TVs from our home (after the Super Bowl — any other wives understand this compromise!?). It's easy for me to resort to sitting down and getting lost in Meredith Grey's life, but the stack of books I long to read on my nightstand isn't getting any thinner.
My husband isn't the biggest fan of this one, but we will give it time to experience the positives and negatives and then reevaluate in about one month.
4. R E C Y C L E
We are fortunate enough to live in a community that values recycling and provides separate bins for weekly collection but I'm ashamed to say that we have yet to utilize it. I simply never took the time to see what our city allows us to recycle. I'm embarrassed. We use recycled packaging for all things Pure + Radiant such as the boxes, business cards (made out of wildflower seeds so yeah, go plant them in the ground), crinkle paper, and even the tape we use is biodegradable and yet we weren't recycling in our own home. I can't function with this huge incongruence.
So, I'm moving that big ol' green bin from our garage to our kitchen so we can make a conscious effort to recycle. Reducing our waste has been on my heart lately but I don't want my husband to go into shock for reducing our one trash bag per week to one mason jar of trash per week (please tell me y'all have heard of Lauren Singer — so inspirational)! Maybe that's in the cards for 2018.
5. I ain't sorry
I'm going to stop apologizing to allow others to receive my gratitude instead of my negativity. The word "sorry" has become something I reactively utter, regardless of whether I've done anything wrong. This tends to justify other people's poor actions and turn me into a complete pushover.
Now, don't get me wrong... I am wrong very often and I have no problem apologizing for the bad things I've done. I own up to my mistakes and ask for forgiveness frequently, but when saying sorry becomes an automatic response to anything that makes me feel a little uncomfortable, it's not creating a high self-esteem within me. For example, I tend to apologize when someone else bumps into me at a bar. I'll immediately put my hand up in peace and quickly say "sorry" with a smile, even though they just spilled half of my $14 drink on the floor. No. No, no no no. I wasn't sorry at all, I was annoyed.
6. I'm breaking up with the bad
I'm starting off January 1st by smudging my sacred space, home, office, and myself to release any leftover energies of conflict, anger, illness, and/or evil. This is like taking an energetic shower, or doing a deep metaphysical cleansing. The smoke from dried sage actually changes the ionic composition of the air, and can have a direct effect on reducing our stress response.
7. I'm welcoming peace
After letting go of the negative energies, I'm going to call forth the energy of peace and love by burning sweetgrass. Just as sage is used to clear negativity, to cleanse, sweetgrass is used to bring positivity. It represents strength, connection to the Creator, love, peace and harmony of mind, body and spirit.
In 2017, we are choosing encouragement over criticism, grace over judgement, and faith over fear.
Thank y'all for showing me grace in all things!